Tag: self-esteem

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A Dignity Money Check

There is money enough for this. It is possible to give a check to each citizen with the necessary amount to survive with dignity. The Gross Domestic Product of my country is 200 000 Million EUR per year. We are about 12 Million citizens, diaspora included. In my crazy math, there’s more than enough money to give 1 Million EUR for each citizen!

Don’t get me wrong. I am not asking for this. All I’m saying is that even a poor country as mine has money enough to share. If governments, politicians and economists were smart, they wouldn’t be afraid of investing money on citizens. When survival and a minimal comfort are granted, citizens are creative and highly productive. They become motivated and inspired. Dignity boosts self-esteem, confidence and the development of skills.

The plague of unemployment and its consequent suffering and mental illnesses are easy to defeat. Give to each citizen a weekly dignity check. Money to end poverty. Move away the specter of fear.

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Ad Experiment

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I decided to use my wallpapers on ads for my services as a real estate business consultant. In case they prove to be appealing I will conceive wallpapers specifically for that purpose, as it happened with some of the illustrations for the items on my Etsy shop.

One important issue is the fun I’m having with this. There is joy in the process and that is new to me. The freedom to use my aesthetic creativity to generate income gives me a sense of purpose and achievement. This is quite challenging for someone raised to hate money.

Self-employment or business owning is radically different from being an employee with a regular salary. One has to be proactive and in a state of alert for business opportunities to get food on the table and a roof to live under. Instability becomes the daily routine. I am hoping to get used to it and have fun in the process of watching my abilities being useful, both as a service and as generators of wealth.

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I Can’t Sell A Damn Thing, And I’m Not Sure If I Want To

I’m really not good at this. Commerce is not my thing. The blog and the Etsy shop are only a desperate attempt to find an alternative to my soon to be abandoned job. I’ve been doing my best to leave in style, that is, without a gap between sources of income, but that is not going to happen. People like my stuff but only very few actually buy items. I find joy when people appreciate my designs and writings, but appreciation is not enough to make a living.

My job prospection feverishly continues with no results to date. Things were already bad before the pandemic. This is not unexpected. I held the fantasy of creating my own job, either through the Etsy shop, this blog or the freelance platforms. Nothing seems to work. I’ve been spending all my energies on becoming a commercial asset at the expend of creativity, but the sacrifice is useless. I now realize more clearly how ancient this effort is and to what extent it stole my life from me. It is at least as old as my professional career, which I intended to leave as soon as I would find myself able to survive as an author.

Things would have been much easier if my professional occupation was not such a violent and weary one. I had the naivete of believing that my love for learning and explaining as well as the importance I give to education would make me an inspiring teacher. I had my moments of success, among peers, students and parents, and some of the utmost dread. In time I reached to the point of burning out. I am totally uncapable of getting back to the classroom, no matter how I hold children in my heart. It is just too much for me. I gave my best until nothing is left.

All I want is a quiet job that doesn’t make me think too much and with enough wage too pay my bills. I’ve been applying for jobs such as warehouse operator, picking and delivery operator, supermarket operator, distribution driver, shop assistant and what not. Refusals succeed, but I still have hope.

I have this tendency to share my thoughts to the public as if they have some interest or value to others. I display my life craving for love. This vanity or personality cult is an awful thing, a weakness still out of my control. Advertising about my shop and blogging to attract potential buyers only make it worse. You have no idea of how much I long for the quiet simple job and the return to my cocoon of creativity, out of worries around commercial success and artistic recognition.

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Wisdom Of The Subconscious

Our subconscious mind makes everything to assure our survival and to alert us when we’re on the edge. No matter our efforts to comply with obligations and commitments we take as correct, the subconscious warns us when we can’t take it anymore. This should not be mistaken with whims and behaviors of abuse or selfishness. Most times it’s hard to make the distinction, specially when the edge is close and we’re getting ourselves mad.

We all have to do sacrifices and the role of the subconscious is to fight us when that happens. Our conscious mind is often raised to either sacrifice or abuse, instead of being taught to achieve balance and unselfish joy. The needs of the individual are to be satisfied instead of judged. The conscious mind must learn how to listen to the subconscious and find the way for responsible satisfaction.

The edge is a very dangerous place and social demands have no regrets on pushing us there and even throwing us to the abyss. After getting us to mental disease, we are outcast and easily replaced.

Leaving the road to the edge and getting to cross-country becomes the only way out. We either live dying or challenge death to live.

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Psychotherapy

In case you have watched my videos, you might have noticed that I’m very anxious and stutter a bit. To settle me down I am having professional help. Consequently I became a strong supporter to the idea of everyone going to psychotherapy appointments.

Without the weekly guidance to deal with emotions and gain control of my behaviors I wouldn’t have found the capacity to build this blog, my shop or my music page. A good psychotherapist guarantees you a secure environment of self-esteem whilst providing the mood and tools to get bold towards living. If everyone took willingly such appointments the world would be a better place.

Think of world dictators and thugs of your daily life on either family or work scenarios. Witness their lack of control for anger and selfishness. Contemplate how they need to be thought and how self-consciously poor they are. Take also a look on the damage caused to their victims. How lonely, sad and helpful they feel.

Most important, look at yourself. Consider making a check up to your soul.